Accept all

I have been thinking about this idea today on my trip home on the subway. Lot's of things that people do bother me and I used to stay in a bad mood for hours thinking about how that other person has done something bad or wrong. And I was thinking today that I need to concentrate on my life and being happy. What other people do to me is not my concern beyond the way I react to her or him in that moment. I cannot control who this person is and the things that she or he does. Instead it is important to allow that person to be her or himself. They have many different traits, behaviors, and sides. The point of the world is not to try to make everyone be like you, because that would be also taking away all the special things other people give away to the world.

The good comes with the bad, and it is my aim to just let people be who they are and stop disturbing myself with it. Instead I want to challenge myself to understand them. To see what they see through their eyes. And then what they say and do probably makes sense and maybe should not be any different. If I look through my eyes, of course it will seem off. But their eyes and soul and not my own and not mine to change or possess.

I'm starting to realize that yes, there are people I care about in my life who mistreat me. Who ignore me. Who abuse me in different ways. This is the tip of the ice burg in our world. I've come to embrace (not warmly) all the atrocities and flaws humans have. It does not mean they are right or that we should not fight against them. But to recognize they are real, they are happening, and to accept them. If we do not accept them, then the rest cannot be done and we will destroy ourselves. Look into the eye of the horror, that is how we transcend it.